Every time i start to climb out of this pit I find myself in, some bugger comes along and digs it a bit deeper!!! We've just got a 'round the houses' letter from an estate agents saying, in effect, that my home has been repossessed (from the landlord, not from me) - now what??
In the last two months I have been made redundant and been hospitalised, now I'm going to be homeless too? I'm trying to look on the bright side and imagine that this estate agent (who is acting as a management company for the bank) will actually do the repairs to the property we have been waiting over a year for, but I'm not holding my breath. After all its easier for them to evict us than it is for them to replace the copper hot water cylinder (in the loft) repair the leak under the bath (necessitating a new bathroom), install a new damp proof course, replace all the windows, install loft and cavity wall insulation and replace all the doors that don't work.
Of course, because of my redundancy I now can't get a private rental, but the Housing Executive here in NI have decided that, basically, I'm not entitled to a local government house as I don't have any kids... of course not, I'm 45 - all my kids have grown up and gone off on their own (apart from Josh, but that's another story) do I really need to keep having kids to ensure that, when I really need assistance (and after supporting myself for x number of years) I can get it?
Maybe if I was coming into the UK from an eastern European country I'd get a house - but don't get me started on that one!!!
I hate my life!
Anita 'Going Under' Kelly
Belfast
Showing posts with label poverty. Show all posts
Showing posts with label poverty. Show all posts
Thursday, February 16, 2012
Sunday, August 14, 2011
Rioters... AAARRGGH!!!
OK, I tried, I really did... I wasn't going to do this online, I was gonna keep my ranting to myself but i'm sick to the back teeth of people trying to excuse the disgusting behaviour of the looters over the last week... the fact of the matter is this is not 'poverty stricken youth rebelling against a world that doesnt accept or understand them' - its a group of people of all ages and ethnic/cultural backgrounds who thought it was acceptable for them to go out, create havoc and steal whatever they wanted just because they could!
I was raised on a council estate, i had my first child at 17 and I had 2 children by the time I was 19... I was the typical unmarried mother, on benefits, living in a council house, its not an easy life but i was very aware of whose fault it was that my life was difficult - MINE!! I was grateful that i got subsidised housing, that the taxpayer paid for me to be able to feed my kids and keep them warm and dry. I got married at 21 and went on to have another 3 children by the time I was 25. My kids weren't born with a silver spoon in their mouths, my ex-husband was unemployed for the first 10 years we were married - but we behaved like normal, civilised human beings, we didn't riot, we weren't a pain in the ass for our neighbours and we made an effort to get along with people. My ex finally got work in NI back in 97 and we moved to Belfast where we were finally - after 15 years of marriage - able to buy a house but even then we didn't have much money. It was a usual occurrence for us to spend £500 on our kids for Christmas... £500 between them, that is!!
We split 5 years ago and are both remarried meaning my kids come from the prime 'rioting' recruitment group - inner city kids, raised in 'poverty', from a broken home.... yet none of my kids were out rioting.
They may have been raised in poverty but they were also raised to respect authority, to respect other people (and other people's property) and to respect themselves!
Why do these people think they can do what they have been doing? Simple - because they can!! they have learned from an early age that the police can arrest them but they'll generally get away with a 'slap on the wrist' as our prisons are already full to overflowing... they have learned that teachers can't touch them, that even their parents can no longer chastise them without being accused of abuse! these people know more about their rights than what IS right and i have only two questions:
1. who is to blame for this state of affairs?
2. what are we gonna do about the future??
the answer to 1 is simple - the same social services and youth workers who have spent the last couple of decades drumming 'rights' into people's heads - any society where a burglar can sue his victim when he injures himself during the robbery is not just broken but smashed to pieces!! I am not in favour of beating the crap out of anyone, much less kids but smacking children isn't abuse - its correction! it teaches kids that if they do wrong their are consequences and those consequences are unpleasant! fluffy hippy types who effectively outlawed smacking but didn't replace it with anything for the majority of people are directly responsible for this attitude among the populace... we need to get back to parents being able to chastise their kids to keep them in line and the parents being punished (or at least reprimanded) when their kids are out of control!
the answer to 2 isn't so simple - in short i don't know what the answer is... how can you now take these people who span all cultural/ethnic backgrounds and about 4 or 5 decades, and change the way they think? how can you make people feel like they have a community and a responsibility to that community? how can you make people realise that, no matter what their gripe with the government, smashing up other peoples property, people's livelihood and, in some cases, other people, is wrong? and more importantly, how can you stop these same people from seeing any changes now brought about by the people or by the government as a reward for their criminal behaviour??
answers on a postcard to 10 downing street please...
Anita 'Law&Order' Kelly
Belfast
I was raised on a council estate, i had my first child at 17 and I had 2 children by the time I was 19... I was the typical unmarried mother, on benefits, living in a council house, its not an easy life but i was very aware of whose fault it was that my life was difficult - MINE!! I was grateful that i got subsidised housing, that the taxpayer paid for me to be able to feed my kids and keep them warm and dry. I got married at 21 and went on to have another 3 children by the time I was 25. My kids weren't born with a silver spoon in their mouths, my ex-husband was unemployed for the first 10 years we were married - but we behaved like normal, civilised human beings, we didn't riot, we weren't a pain in the ass for our neighbours and we made an effort to get along with people. My ex finally got work in NI back in 97 and we moved to Belfast where we were finally - after 15 years of marriage - able to buy a house but even then we didn't have much money. It was a usual occurrence for us to spend £500 on our kids for Christmas... £500 between them, that is!!
We split 5 years ago and are both remarried meaning my kids come from the prime 'rioting' recruitment group - inner city kids, raised in 'poverty', from a broken home.... yet none of my kids were out rioting.
They may have been raised in poverty but they were also raised to respect authority, to respect other people (and other people's property) and to respect themselves!
Why do these people think they can do what they have been doing? Simple - because they can!! they have learned from an early age that the police can arrest them but they'll generally get away with a 'slap on the wrist' as our prisons are already full to overflowing... they have learned that teachers can't touch them, that even their parents can no longer chastise them without being accused of abuse! these people know more about their rights than what IS right and i have only two questions:
1. who is to blame for this state of affairs?
2. what are we gonna do about the future??
the answer to 1 is simple - the same social services and youth workers who have spent the last couple of decades drumming 'rights' into people's heads - any society where a burglar can sue his victim when he injures himself during the robbery is not just broken but smashed to pieces!! I am not in favour of beating the crap out of anyone, much less kids but smacking children isn't abuse - its correction! it teaches kids that if they do wrong their are consequences and those consequences are unpleasant! fluffy hippy types who effectively outlawed smacking but didn't replace it with anything for the majority of people are directly responsible for this attitude among the populace... we need to get back to parents being able to chastise their kids to keep them in line and the parents being punished (or at least reprimanded) when their kids are out of control!
the answer to 2 isn't so simple - in short i don't know what the answer is... how can you now take these people who span all cultural/ethnic backgrounds and about 4 or 5 decades, and change the way they think? how can you make people feel like they have a community and a responsibility to that community? how can you make people realise that, no matter what their gripe with the government, smashing up other peoples property, people's livelihood and, in some cases, other people, is wrong? and more importantly, how can you stop these same people from seeing any changes now brought about by the people or by the government as a reward for their criminal behaviour??
answers on a postcard to 10 downing street please...
Anita 'Law&Order' Kelly
Belfast
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